Would you want to know?

If somebody knew your significant other had cheated on you or was still cheating on you as we speak, would you want to know?

If you are married with kids and your spouse is cheating on you and a friend of yours knew about it would you want them to tell you?

I'm trying to decide if I would want somebody to tell me if they knew such information. It's a hard issue to grapple with. If I have children with a man who is cheating on me and I believe he is being faithful would I want all of that to come crumbling down, my family shattered to pieces because of a broken vow, a broken line of communication somewhere? If I found out through a friend that my spouse was cheating what would I do? I can't very well go and get a divorce can I? Does he plan on leaving me? What am I going to do about income and a job? This is all so wrong, I can't even imagine. The next step would be dealing with it. I would have to deal somehow with the fact that my spouse has or is cheating on me. One more worry, one more problem. Who has time for that? I guess it might be different if I was a woman on my own two feet with a great job and a great income but if I am relying soley on my spouses income then what? More importantly, what are the children going to think when they find out their mom or dad is going to be with another person.

I guess it's one thing for the spouse to come to you and be honest and come clean about his or her infidelity...but to have somebody else say, "ooohh girl, your man has been sleeping with a skanky ass ho."...that's quite another. Mind you, they may not say it like that but that is what you are interpreting it as.

I guess I'm lucky that I haven't had to deal with this in my marriage yet, but does it happen to every married couple? Is your man or woman or destined to cheat on you? Why do they do it?

Would you want to know and why?